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Marriage is an important and life changing decision. Whether you do or do not want children, are a believer in pre-marital sex, or have strong religious beliefs, there are some things that should be discussed before saying “I do.” This blog post will help answer the question of what happens after the I do by discussing various aspects of marriage as well as how to talk about them with your partner.
Discussing pre-marital sex with your partner is a common topic. What do you do if one person wants it and the other does not? It can be difficult to address this question, but discussing what each party expects from the relationship before marriage will help avoid conflict later on. The same applies to children: If one person prefers to have kids while the other doesn’t want them, how do they compromise when faced with such differing opinions? Understanding where both parties stand in these situations will make discussions easier and less argumentative.
When religious beliefs are involved as well, there’s another set of important topics to discuss – ones that may not seem directly related at first glance. For example, some religions believe couples must marry outside the religion. And while some religions do not care, others do have rituals that must be observed post-marriage. What’s more, the couple may need to consider what “type” of ceremony they want – for example, if one person wants a religious service and the other does not.
There are many issues couples should discuss before getting married (or deciding to move in together), but as this article has shown there is no clear answer on how best to do so. The next step will be up to them: whether it’s discussing these topics with each other or meeting with a marriage counselor—it all depends on their priorities and goals for that relationship going forward.
They do not have to do anything. They can just “stay in love.” But they should take the time to discuss what that means for them and how they want their marriage or commitment to be defined, because one day those things are going to change–everyone goes through a major life event at some point. And when it does, do you know if your partner is still on board?
Marriage: Let’s Talk about What Happens After the I Do
The first step of planning any wedding is deciding who sits where during the ceremony. But before couples get too caught up in finding out which side has more shade (or throwing down over whether certain people will even come), there are other bigger questions worth discussing beforehand – like do you want to have kids or do you believe in monogamy, for example.
The first thing couples should do while they’re engaged is sit down and talk about the future: where do they see themselves when it’s time to start a family? What kind of lifestyle do they envision together five years from now? Ten years from now? These are conversations that matter – but don’t always happen because people assume their partner knows what they want out of life. But maybe he doesn’t know how much traveling she wants; maybe she doesn’t know if he wants another kid as soon as possible or would be willing to wait. Before deciding on anything else–venue, flowers, invitations–couples should take some time to make sure they’re on the same page.
what do people assume about their partner’s values and life goals when they enter into a relationship with them? before deciding anything else–venue, flowers, invitations (eception)–couples should take time to make sure they are on the same page. this is crucial because it can help avoid any possible misunderstandings that could happen down the line if there was something one person wanted but had never told their spouse ahead of time.
know your future plans; be upfront about them from day one so as not to create problems later on down the road.
do you want kids? do you want to stay at home or work full time once married? are you open to the idea of living in another country one day, and how would that affect your spouse’s career? do either of you have a certain religion or set of beliefs that could potentially change what type of ceremony is planned for the wedding day? do any family members need accommodations onsite during the event (e.g., grandparents with limited mobility)? will both sets of parents be attending and where should they sleep if not an option for them to share a room together? these questions seem like no-brainers but can often cause tension when couples don’t get around to discussing them beforehand.